Find Out Your WHY

The reason I see most people give something up is nearly always the same.

They never stopped to work out why they wanted to achieve the thing in the first place. I mean sure, perhaps they had a vague idea around money, time or other stuff but if you had to tie them down to specifics they would struggle.

Here is how to do it.

Work out a strong reason why you would want to achieve the thing you want.

How will you benefit?

How will others benefit?

What will it mean to your lifestyle, employability, free time?

What will happen if you don’t get it?

How will it affect you and others?

Would you feel sad if you never achieved it?

I see so many people give up their job hunting quest after they get only a handful of refusals. My friend had 100 rejections of his book before being accepted. Now he writes movie scripts, runs seminars and has won a BAFTA for one of his screenplays. He was driven by a very strong reason WHY?

So what is your WHY?

Paul Browning

18 Responses to “Find Out Your WHY”

  1. One of my pet hates is when someone starts something and never completes the task they have started he or she never follow through to completion.
    This applies to everything from putting up shelves in the home, DIY projects a job of work or starting a certification and never taking that final step and taking the exam.
    That is why I intend to make the most of the contents of this web site to break into IT, as someone once said, “I have started so I will finish” it may take a wee while, but I will get there.

  2. Thanks, Paul. I found this post really inspiring. I think it is easy to lose one’s “why” after a bit of rejection and disappointment.

    I started asking myself the questions you suggested in this post, and I came up with some interesting ideas that I hadn’t actually thought of before I read it. Those questions are pretty revealing.

  3. I absolutely agree with your theory that people are quick to give up on things because they do not have a clear vision.

    I try to use positive thinking and projection to keep myself motivated. Using the approach to finding out a why is going to be a helpful addition to my motivational repertoire.

  4. Thanks for this post.

    The questions are really powerful tools to shape a better understanding of why I want the things that I want. Until I read this post, I hadn’t actually asked myself those questions. It is a great place to start.

  5. I have been doing a little soul-searching to find out my own why. It is an interesting journey. I am finding that I have discovered new things and have acquired new techniques since I did this about 5 years ago.

  6. It is interesting to think about how things evolve. You start doing something for one reason, but your point of view changes with time.

  7. I would be sad if I didn’t achieve my goals. One of the things I keep thinking about is that I would be so disappointed if I would not be able to do what I want to do most.

  8. I know a lot of people who have changed careers. The one thing that they have in common is that they began asking these kinds of questions of themselves, and they followed their intuitions.

  9. It takes work to figure out what you really want to do. It seems like it would be simple to figure out, but it is actually something to think very hard about. Your post gives people a good jumping off point.

  10. The idea of a “why” is a good one…. are we all working because we love our careers or because it is expected of us?

  11. * How will you benefit?
    Work when I want to – no more 7 to 4.30.
    No more “nauker” – and Indian word to describe anyone who is employed (servant or slave)
    No more slave to the job.

    *How will others benefit?
    Spend more time with me!

    * What will it mean to your lifestyle, employability, free time?
    See above – spend more time with family
    Take holidays when I want to (I have only had 3.5 weeks holiday in last 41 years!)
    Finances
    More free time to enjoy the good things in life
    “Retire” early

    *What will happen if you don’t get it?
    Slave to the job
    Retire at 65+ and on the breadline
    No taking time off when i want to
    The dread that i get every Sunday about going to work

    *How will it affect you and others?
    Can’t do the things we like when we like.
    Depression.

    *Would you feel sad if you never achieved it?
    Devastated!!!
    Can’t bear thinking about.
    Would feel dead inside.

  12. Wouldn’t the world be a far better place if we all could permanently silence that little voice in our heads. The voice I’m referring to is the one that tells us we cannot do something. How grand it would be if no one ever thought they couldn’t succeed. (Except criminals & serial killers of course.) We often get big ideas for ourselves then half way through the process we convince ourselves that we cannot finish what we started. Like many people I have been guilty of this behavior.

  13. Inner game is where it all starts. “Quitters never win and winners never quit” this is a proverb from some guy I don’t know but is suppose to be famous. we must remember that Thomas Edison failed 1000 experiments before coming up with what we call today as the light bulb. The ironic thing is he kept a positive mental attitude. The 1000 experiments for him was not a failure. each of it was a victory that led him closer to his goal.

  14. People should really look for the causes more instead of the effect. Too many lazy thinkers out there if you ask me.

  15. Cause and effect, One of the most basic laws overlooked. Most of us however focus too much on the effect. Flip a switch and start looking for the cause. Only then can we prevent unfavorable things.

    • So, do a “root cause analysis” on why we are failing to accomplish objectives 🙂 Of course, that takes effort, and those of us who would put in that effort possibly don’t need to. (I don’t put myself in that category). Good reminder to pay attention to the causes for failure and not just the effects.

  16. Paul, I’ve noticed in several of your posts that you identify “how will others benefit” as an important consideration. Not the only consideration, but a very important one. Thank you for focusing on that. People (potential customers) want to do business with other people who they believe understand their problems and can help solve them. I truly believe that people who are only in it for themselves will not succeed for long.

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