The Whole Package

There is one person who should be the most passionate about you getting the most out of your career and life. Can you guess who that person is?

That’s right. It’s you!There is no room for being shy or modest, even if you are a fully fledged IT geek. If you are the sort of person who doesn’t like to make a fuss or stand up for themselves then here is what you have in store:

  • Take whatever jobs you are given
  • Walked over by others
  • Never paid what you are worth
  • Passed over for promotion and projects
  • Given boring work when others won’t take it

Sound good? Probably not but I’m here to make you feel uncomfortable and encourage you to take action.

If you don’t feel particularly confident at the moment then don’t worry. We cover that in the members lessons. I am a great believer in faking it until you make it. You only have to be confident for short periods of time including interviews, salary negotiations and promotion time. The rest of the time you can go back to being shy if you really want.

Paul Browning

17 Responses to “The Whole Package”

  1. I always lose opportunities due to shyness…

  2. Then how can I become confident? Any tips?

  3. Courage , courage, all I need is courage…Negotiation is the hardest part of interview!

  4. Interview’s like role play, you never play yourself…

    • This can be a double-edged sword Alexander. On the one hand, you must present yourself in a confident light as one who will get the job done for the hiring company. On the other hand, if you play yourself as too far from your real self, you will likely be very stressed out trying to maintain that image.

      I decided a number of years ago to go into an interview with confidence (sometimes faking it a little if I was having a shy day) but also allow my own personality to come through. I figured I’d be happiest at a place that saw me as a good fit when I was being myself. Works for me, anyway 🙂

  5. Fake it then make it…but you have to fake it well….otherwise..

  6. I’m not good at switching roles…what you said sounds easy but hard to execute.

  7. Where can I get the whole package for anti-shyness dose? I’m an addict…

  8. I feel like I am never loud enough and that people don’t notice me right away. I qualify for the description you bullet pointed in the post. I think that my shyness is making me invisible.

  9. Is there a difference between shy and quiet? I am not shy, but I am very quiet. It seems to me that many of the people I know who are successful are simply more assertive than I am.

  10. Being reserved is getting me nowhere fast. People just don’t notice the quiet ones in the bunch.

  11. I am really looking forward to learning how to feel more confident, and how to appear confident to others. I can recognize this problem in other people, and I even recognize it in myself, but I am still trying to work out what to do about it.

  12. We were trying to put together a “dream team” of people, and we were going over a list of names. One of the people on the list is really quiet. We knew nothing about him, so we didn’t really even consider him. I guess we could have approached him to learn more, but it doesn’t feel like it should be up to me to speak up for him. It should be up to him.

  13. I admit, I am falling into a rut. Your questions did as you intended; I felt a little uncomfortable and it made me stop and think about what I want.

  14. I try to be outspoken, but always seem to fade into the wallpaper.

  15. This was me to the point that I wonder if you were thinking of me when you wrote this! Far too many times have I been walked over and used. I couldn’t live with the embarrassment of being the one person everyone would go to when they wanted something unpleasant accomplished. I never felt better than the day that I decided that I would no longer be that person. Much of how I was treated was my own fault. I know now that if you are not confident and you don’t make it a point to seem confident life is much more difficult.

  16. Those who demand much of themselves receive much, strive to be on top. This is the secret of great names such as Jordan, Lebron etc. Success has a price. It will not land on your lap just as you wish for it. Gotta meet it halfway. you gotta reinvent how you see yourself. and when you do see yourself as a whole and not in parts only.

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